One of the most
common causes for the failure of many erotic dates is
the fact that one or both lovers are ignorant regarding
some essential aspects of eroticism. In the following,
we present some of these...
Directly To Intercourse
A man does not need
too much preparation for an erotic act to begin. He just
needs to look at his partner, touch and embrace her and
bum! he is ready for intercourse.
A woman needs the
so-called foreplay (the man also, sometimes). Many men
think that prelude is something limited to a kiss, a
touch of her breasts and that's about it... It is true
that there are women with greater sexual appetite, who
are easily excitable. They can skip that preparative,
but not necessarily always. However, most women need a
lot of small "attentions" to lead them to pleasure.
What is Prelude?
Prelude implies many things, each
according to the specific needs and moods of a given
couple. Fortunately, there is no such thing as a
standard recipe for all couples. But there are a few
rules that you should keep in mind if you want to offer
and to receive pleasure.
Lovemaking Requires a Special
not about turning your room into a theatre scene. Some
details would be enough to love making. For example,
relaxing, pleasant music, a bouquet of flowers, candles,
incense sticks, etc.
The bedroom has to be
more than merely a place to sleep. With some effort, a
lot of thought and care, even the most "ordinary"
bedroom can become a love nest with all the positive
effects derived from this.
Undressing - A Two Lovers Play
Each of the two
should get close to the other. You shouldn't expect that
he does all the work… The way you unbutton his shirt can
have a very important and sexy effect on your lover's
appetite. Moreover, the woman can turn this simple act
of taking her clothes off into a ritual of abandoning
herself for the real, cosmic and pure love, which may
grant her lover happiness and self-content.
Should Communicate Through Words
whisper...but what? Not words that you've read from
books, of course, but tender words from the bottom of
your heart. Women receive happily and with emotion her
lover's tender and admiring remarks, words that are
meant to encourage and also to create a more intimate
atmosphere between the two.
What Should You Smell Like?
smell should be fresh, clean, discrete perfume. To smell
good is a matter of elegance and refinement. Moreover,
from a traditional point of view, perfume is considered
a magical love potion. From the very beginning, the
creation of perfume was inspired by the complex
relationship, the desire, and the passion between man
Any Erotic Game Can Take Place
If Both Lovers Agree To It
one of you comes up with a new, and perhaps kind of
unusual idea about engaging an erotic play and the other
is reticent, you should be understanding and give that
idea up immediately. Otherwise not only your honeymoon
is ruined, but your whole relationship might also be
affected. But you might try a sensual massage or
lovemaking without intercourse.
Don't Be Skimpy With Your
They are, along with
your caresses, the essential part of the sexual prelude.
Become a master of kissing is our advice for a wonderful
Should Know How To Caress
Caresses turn on the
skin's sexual sensitivity of both partners. Be careful!
Touching or massaging (lightly!) the erogenous zones
should take place in light, small, rhythmical motions!
We have something for you regarding this subject, too:
your partner by sensual touching.
The touch of love.
Using oils and
essences for erotic massage.
Women's breasts are
not only an essential attribute of femininity, but also
the richest, most subtle and most sensitive instrument
of erotic emotions. Caressing and tickling the nipples
makes all the nervous reflexes come to life and prepares
the genitals for the sexual act itself. The more
delicate the caress, the stronger the effect.
paralyze the woman's sensitivity, instead of exciting
her, just like a powerful sound makes you deaf for a
while. There might be an exception: for women who have
corpulent body hard pinch might have results as good as
Sometimes, when very
excited, some men have the tendency of squeezing the
woman's breasts painfully and biting them as if they
were apples. These men should not forget that excited
breasts are as sensitive to traumas as their own
testicles. So do not bite your partner's breasts and do
not squeeze them hard, unless, of course, asked to.
Urination - One Of The Secret Methods Of Controlling
In Tantric Buddhism
and Taoism, initiated people control their ejaculation
completely by using special secret techniques. This
process requires absolute genital-urinary control..
Taoists consider that
urine and sweat are the manifestations of certain
energies that must be controlled and beneficially
orientated by the human being. Wise people considered
that those who have control over their urinary potential
also have control over their sexual potential.
There are three very
simple, but efficient methods through which you can get
control over the sexual and urinary potential:
In reference to this
connection between the urinary and genital systems, it
is common that the embryo has, till the fourth month of
development, the same urinary and genital apparatus.
They use this same type of tissue even when they grow
and develop into an individual.
It is also worth
mentioning that men find control of the urination
process harder as they grow older and lose their sexual
vigor; most of them having a prostate problem. Studies
have reached the conclusion that men who have an
irregular sexual life and who ejaculate frequently, are
the most predisposed to prostate diseases, to urinary
incontinence and renal infections.
1. First method
consists of fragmented urination, which means urinating
in very short jets with a few seconds pause in between.
The pause has to be long enough so that the urine flow
stops completely. In the beginning there will be thrills
through your body, especially up your spine. They will
feel too strong for the weak ones. These thrills are
nothing else but a manifestation of the energy
transmuted because of the firm and strong contractions
of the urinary sphincters. Certain texts suggest that
this energy (these "thrills") must be visualized and
directed up the spine to the zone in the middle of the
2. Second method,
called the 'short urine retention' is stronger: when you
feel the need to urinate you will relax the urinary
sphincters and contract them immediately and firmly
before the urine comes out of the bladder. It's a method
that requires very good control and at first should be
practiced only in the toilet. Exercises are usually done
before urination (fragmented). Obviously we should
approach it gradually, without forcing it.
These two techniques
are very efficient and should be practiced at each
urination; transforming the common act of urination into
a part of our daily training to harmonize our sexual
energy, to obtain control or to maintain a perfect state
of health and vigor.
A better control
over the creative and vital energy of the human.
Amplifying of the
Yang energy inside the being (solar, masculine, of
and refreshing the whole organism.
your will power.
maintaining erotic continence.
By fragmenting the
flow as many as 70 times in every urination for three
weeks you will advantageously improve a lot of
affections and genital-urinary dysfunctions, also you
will notice an increased and more harmonious sexual
If the resulted
energy from the transmutation of the urinary potential
is directed and visualized as moving up the spine to
ajna chakra you will notice an increase in your mental
capacities, your ability to focus and concentrate. Here
are some other secrets about fragmented urination and
short urinary retention:
When you feel tired
after an involuntary loss of sexual potential through
ejaculation, fragment your urine in as many jets as you
can (ideally more than 70 times), during the technique
relax your body and feel the energetic thrills. You will
feel fully refreshed.
In order to improve
your sleep, eliminate bad dreams and nightmares, shorten
the sleeping period and eliminate tiredness in the
morning, use urine fragmentation or the technique of
urinary retention before going to sleep.
In order to use these
two techniques evoke a state of will and firmness before
Use spine elongations
and abdominal retractions as preparatory exercises; they
are meant to purify the energetic channels through which
the resulted energy will come.
3. Third method: a
quarter of an hour or an hour before making love drink
water (or an infusion or juice) in a large quantity
(over 1 liter is best) so that during sexual intercourse
you will need to urinate. While you make love try to
relax the urinary sphincters and the whole abdominal
zone as you would want to urinate. You can do that
without any risk, because it is practically impossible
to urinate at that moment (the way the muscles of the
penis act when erect do not allow the urine to come
out). In a few minutes you will feel that the energy
goes up easily and spontaneously. It is possible for
some extremely pleasant thrills and an intense state of
erotic and affective effervescence to appear. This state
can be prolonged for as long as you want by relaxing the
sphincters and the inferior abdominal zone.
have the tendency to be very contracted during
intercourse because of their desire to have more
control, which is wrong. In fact the more the genitals
are relaxed the easier it is for the energy to move up,
to control and circulate.
By practicing these
techniques during intercourse, control can easily be
accomplished. Much tension and inner stress can be
eliminated by these exercises. Also, these exercises are
very useful for obtaining control over the inferior
abdominal zone, which is one of the hardest zones to
After studying a
great number of patients with disabilities and psychic
disturbances, specialists said that almost all their
muscles are strongly contracted. They discovered that in
accordance with the improvement of the symptoms there
was a corresponding physical muscular relaxation.
Thus they were able
to medically prove what initiates have known for
thousand of years; that any psycho-mental tension,
sexual repression or inhibition is "translated" by our
organism into involuntary genital contractions.
Further than this
they noticed that through the relaxation and control
over the inferior abdominal muscles and genital muscles
there is a corresponding improvement in the psycho -
mental life of the human.
One question: if
relaxing the genitals is useful, then why do they
recommend certain contractions, like the contraction of
the urinary sphincters?
The answer is that
when the relaxation is perfectly controlled then the
efficiency of the contractions is maximized.
Let us compare them
to a ball that must be pushed in a certain direction.
The ball is the erotic energy, the direction is up the
spine and the force that moves the ball is one of these
contractions. If, for example, the pelvic contraction is
very strong and the rest of the body is relaxed, the
energy will be pushed up as the ball is. If you add
other involuntary contractions from many different
groups of abdominal muscles the effect is a lot weaker.
Just like the ball would move chaotically under the
impulse of several forces
alternating contraction and relaxation is one of the
best - known secrets of the Taoist art of love. The
connection between the inner mental, emotional state and
the exterior manifestations during intercourse become
obvious. Controlling these techniques means a lot more
than mechanically conforming to rules, is a sign of
harmony and inner force.
By practicing Oriental erotic techniques
a new, lucid and sincere universe opens up to the user,
a universe that was not even thought of, what greater
joy could you offer to a woman than to put the whole
universe at her disposal.